Going beyond the GROW model
Leaders: Are they born or made?
“I am a self-aware leader who is a dedicated continuous work in progress!”
I have to say; I’m not really a royalist, although I did hugely respect the late-Queen as someone who was a dedicated leader and clearly stood by her values and what she believed.
In the run up to the King’s Coronation, a question many have been asking is; are leaders born or made?
King Charles was literally born into this leadership role.
We’ve all heard the saying ‘Born Leader’ - someone who rises to the challenge, is logical, eager to learn, assertive, confident, a problem solver, independent… but, in 2014, scientific studies suggest that leadership is 30% genetic and 70% learned.
These findings propose that leaders are made, not born. Although we can be born with natural leadership abilities, it is crucial that we learn how to lead well too.
I believe some people are born with leadership qualities and hey, as an-ex Deputy Head teacher, I often knew the young people who had more natural skills and inclination to lead. However, as someone who is passionate about self-development and knowing that we are all ‘continuous works in progress’ – these findings delighted me!
So, science shows that leaders are not born, but, the idea of leaders being ‘made’, to me, feels too final, complete – it should never be “I’ve made it as a leader, so, job done!” A leader is never complete, as leadership is a skill to be continually nurtured and I believe good leadership always starts with and comes back to, us!
Many of us often think that leadership is all about having a title; King, Queen, President, Manager, SLT… however, this isn’t the case. It’s not about the title – it’s about YOU! You may even be a leader with out realising it – fancy that!
A recent Forbes article outlined 8 core leadership traits as:
- Change Agility
And, I have to say, I agree with all of these. However, I believe that ultimately good leadership starts with self-leadership. We can’t lead others unless we can lead ourselves. Recognising our strengths and developing our weaker areas.
In my own life, from my early twenties, I was driven to be a leader, but if I’m honest, it wasn’t based on any characteristics or traits, nor did I want to lead or manage people… for me, I was driven by a perceived or psychological need that a leadership role would help me feel more safe and secure – it was about money. I saw becoming a manager or a leader as a way I could make more money and buy a flat! But, when you then step into these positions, especially when you are not prepared, you eventually realise that leadership is actually about you first.
Over time, I have learnt that good leadership is about being mindful, present and living with purpose – continually reflecting on; how do I want to show up and what are the qualities I think are important?
It’s not about control; it’s about supporting people in different ways. Real leaders know when they need to; pivot, learn, develop, allow someone else to take the spotlight… they know when it’s appropriate to take the lead and when it’s best to take a step back and listen.
I had to learn so much in my first leadership role and, in truth, I am still continuously learning.
So, as I enjoy champagne during our Coronation picnic, I will raise my glass and wish The King and the country well hoping that he also sees leadership as a development process.
I will also raise a glass to us all too… may we all continue to be self-aware leaders who are dedicated ‘continuous works in progress’.
- Forbes – Core Leadership Traits - https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbesagencycouncil/2022/11/10/8-core-leadership-traits/?sh=2cbb39be4e93
- 2014, scientific studies suggest that leadership is 30% genetic and 70% learned - https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/10/141006133228.htm