Many models of coaching don't talk about what the coach does outside sessions which enables them to be fully present with the client. However, in the ever-evolving world of coaching, one thing remains a constant pillar of success: the coaching mindset. As coaches, our ability to be fully present, grounded and client-centred doesn’t begin when a session starts, it begins with the mindset we cultivate every day and this is a stand alone competency with the ICF.
The ICF ( International Coaching Federation) define this mindset as one that is open, curious, flexible and client-centred. It’s about how we show up and what we need to do so considering the support that you have around you and having your needs met.
The Selfless Model and Beyond
When I developed the “Selfless Model" in 2021 I wanted something which looked at the coaches role within the coaching which I saw missing from many other models I'd been taught. By including "State" it's reminding the coach to consider how they show up focusing on self-awareness and self-regulation. The way that we show up as coaches directly impacts the space we hold for our clients. In simple terms, we can’t support our clients in going deep if we’re not willing to go deep ourselves and we can't hold space effectively if we're disregulated.
This mindset also means embracing lifelong learning. Whether you’re new to coaching or an ICF Master Coach there’s always room for growth. I believe we're all on a path to mastery, one that’s never truly complete but is rich with continual discovery. This is why we include self reflection as another key piece as it equally supports understanding and identifying our needs and support which help us to develop our coaching skills.
One of the key components of a coaching mindset is recognising that our clients are responsible for their own choices. We don’t hold the answers this can be challenging when we want to help our clients and we need to be aware of our desire to rescue which can drive some behaviour. As a coach our role is to create a space that helps our client uncover their answers. This belief in the client’s resourcefulness is fundamental and shifts us away from “fixing” and towards true partnership.
Engage in Reflective Practice: Journaling, supervision and peer conversations help coaches maintain awareness and recalibrate when needed.
Stay Curious: The best coaches approach every session with a sense of wonder, asking “What don’t I know?” rather than assuming expertise. A non judgemental approach can spill into every day life too meaning you're open to seeing things from different perspectives which improves your relationships.
Use Positive Psychology and Neuroscience: Incorporating evidence-based tools enhances your mindset. Gratitude, mindfulness and an understanding neuroplasticity can transform how you show up as a coach. Even simple things like gratitude can, over time, re-wire your brain and change the way you show up.
Practice What You Preach: Model the behaviours you support in your clients: growth mindset, resilience, and self-compassion. It's true that we're our own clients so when you do "the work" you're modelling this to your clients too.
Ask for help: As a coach you may need support outside supervision: this could be your own coach or therapist or it may be that you recognise you need other support in your personal and professional life.
Coaching mindset isn’t something you turn on before a session, it’s who you become through intentional practice, self-work, and commitment to your clients’ potential. “We are always evolving as coaches.” The journey is not about being perfect; it’s about being present, curious and committed.