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title: "Episode 15: Defence Mechanisms"
description: "This week, we’ll be looking at social media and how it can be used for good.

We often hear how social media is negative.

So can we really use it for good?  

Well, social media helped me build a business and connect with other like-minded individuals.

In this episode, I’ll show you how I’ve made it work for me and how you can do the same!

Highlights

(02:13) Comparison  

(06:02) Consider and reflect

(06:54) What do I want? 

(08:50 ) What do I need to change? 

(09:34) Taking a step back

(11:37) Move on!"
---

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# [Episode 15: Defence Mechanisms](https://www.optimuscoachacademy.com/en/how-to-feel-better-podcast/episode-15-defence-mechanisms)

 Written by [Ruth Kudzi, MCC](https://www.optimuscoachacademy.com/en/how-to-feel-better-podcast/author/ruth-kudzi-mcc) | Apr 6, 2023 2:18:25 PM

We all have defence mechanisms but are they really helping us?

Attack is not always the best form of defence!

Our unconscious naturally wants to keep us safe but this can sometimes be harmful to our relationships.

In this episode, I’ll guide you on how to recognise and use your mechanisms in the right way.

**Highlights**

(02:54) Spotting these patterns

(04:06) We can change!

(05:17) Repressed memories

(06:10) Denial

(11:05) No excuses!

<https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/defence-mechanisms/id1664411369?i=1000607624675>

 

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